And if I jog enough, then I get to have two desserts.

I just don't have it in me this week to be introspective, so I'm going to follow up the toey questions with more light and fun questions. But I promise that once I get back into the swing of things, I will get to all the other fascinating questions my thoughtful readers have queried me with. So let's continue...

ChickyBabe asked...

First thing that Jill notices about a man. Unless I literally happen to walk into him, a man's overall composure is what I see first--the way he stands, the way he holds himself, his general presence in a place. I appreciate a man who is comfortable in his own skin, doesn't take himself too seriously, and smiles sincerely and often.

Hairy chest or smooth chest? I am merely speaking of my initial aesthetic draw--when I ogle actors, models, and men on the beach, I am most attracted to smooth. Which isn't to say that I can't appreciate hair as well. But I don't spend a whole lot of time studying the chest...

Longish hair, short hair or bald? I've been attracted to all. It depends on the man and how the hair fits with his overall composure and personality. When I was younger, I was a sucker for the hair-flopping-in-the-eyes type, but as I have come to physically appreciate men beyond age 26, hair is less of a draw for me. In fact, just the other day, I emphatically told an old friend who had been one of the hair-flopping-in-the-eyes boys I mentioned, that he should keep his hair very short as it has been recently. He, of course, immediately assumed that this meant that I had been lying all the times I had told him I liked his hair long. I did like his hair long, and now I like it short. Any questions?

As for bald...well, bald can be hot. A man just needs the confidence to own it. The problem is, so many men lacking the confidence and starting to lack large swaths of hair will not shave the rest off. To make an equation of it:

lack of confidence + uneven/trying to cover it up hair < href="http://faltenin.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">Faltenin asked...

You and him have the opportunity to make love in any one place you decide. The Oval Office, bottom of the sea, your parent's bedroom... Where do you choose? Well, Faltenin, it depends on which "him" you're talking about. ;-) I once was in the middle of a conversation and was visited by a very vivid image of a white convertible on a deserted desert highway, which resulted in me writing this. This room wouldn't be particularly adventurous, but I would enjoy every second of it. And I once had to dig my nails into my thigh to keep myself from walking up onto a certain stage. Which stage and who was on it, I'll never tell. Unless the correct person asks.


Network Geek asked...

How soon upon meeting a strange man do you confess your undying lust for him? Any feeling that I have ever had that felt remotely close to "undying" lust has taken me waaaay longer than a reasonable amount of time to confess. Attraction, I can state that. Admiration, sure. Anything that requires emotional vulnerability... a few years. Give or take a few years.

Same question, but substitute "deepest, darkest secrets" for "undying lust for him". Confessions of other things are much easier for me. The men I trust the most, I have realized I would trust them within a few seconds of looking into their eyes. They quickly are on the receiving end of lots of confessions. Except about what they were hoping to hear. Generally, you see, undying lust, trust, and deep dark secrets go together for me. It's confessing to the "liking" him that's always been the problem. Mind you--I am not proud of this. It's just my track record, and I'm admitting it. Which brings me to...


Lil Bitty asked...

If you could go back to any point in your life and start over, knowing and remembering what you know now, when would you return to and why. I would go back and tell each of them everything I ever wanted to tell them, at the moments they wished they could hear it.

What is the consensus of all the Jill's on the perfect "date" and/or guy. Well, I realize that nobody is perfect. But if I could put together a man the way they make stuffed animals in those Build-a-Bear stores, he would be: confident, beyond competent at what he does, insightful, adventurous, kind, trustworthy, patient, well-mannered, playful, charismatic, and energetic. He would know, love, and be able to forgive himself. He would have a keen analytical mind, sure hands, the heart of a little boy, a smile to light up a room, a voice that could melt snow, and eyes to die for. And we already know what he'd be able to do in the bedroom. Is that too much to ask? ;-)