Ironically, this post has no name.
Calling someone by name gets their attention, lets them know you are speaking to them. Calling me by name mid-conversation, mid-sentence, even, is like a well-placed hand. It gets me every time. If I’m yours to be gotten.
You do it sometimes when you know my mind is racing. It runs ahead; you bring it back. Without a break in the rhythm of your sentence, without distraction from the task at hand, you guide me back to here. To now. Much like I imagine your hand would.
I never liked my name as a child, fell into apathy as an adolescent. But years breed informality; old friends play the name game with ease. Today I find myself answering to diminuitives and nonsense names, as if the years had gone in reverse from the moment I entered college. They've softened me up for you.
You creep toward comfort, playing with my name, inviting me to play with yours. I find myself wondering what names we will decide upon, and when our hands might speak instead.
You do it sometimes when you know my mind is racing. It runs ahead; you bring it back. Without a break in the rhythm of your sentence, without distraction from the task at hand, you guide me back to here. To now. Much like I imagine your hand would.
I never liked my name as a child, fell into apathy as an adolescent. But years breed informality; old friends play the name game with ease. Today I find myself answering to diminuitives and nonsense names, as if the years had gone in reverse from the moment I entered college. They've softened me up for you.
You creep toward comfort, playing with my name, inviting me to play with yours. I find myself wondering what names we will decide upon, and when our hands might speak instead.
Labels: aurally-obsessed, creative nonfiction, Longing may be elegant but it also hurts like hell


20 Comments:
You make an interesting point, Jill, about the use of names. My wife has observed a similar truth, Jill, claiming that her heart often melts when I call her by name.
When I call her by some other name, Jill, the effect is drastically different. She often uses her hand, Jill, to bring me back to the here and now.
Hello, Jill.
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scott, At
2/07/2006 10:20:00 AM
You're awesome.
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Jill, At
2/07/2006 10:32:00 AM
No Pookie or nick names that make me gag okay?
Growing up in the North East - every third girl was named Jennifer or Jessica. I always wanted a name like Samantha or Shana not something so common.
Choose wisely my friend.
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Sass, At
2/07/2006 12:05:00 PM
my boyfriend has used my name exactly seven times in the five and a half years we've been dating. those seven times all occurred the same night, while he was introducing me to his family.
you make a very good point, jill.
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kat, At
2/07/2006 12:26:00 PM
Jill, I am sure this routine will get old on this post so I won't disappoint ...or jill I? I get you on this one for sure especially since I have a rather unusual name myself. Jill, just seeing my name on other blogs warms my heart. It's weird how that works, but it also makes it hard to lead a secretive life. Not that I have anything to hide Jill. I hope you jill have a great week.
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Egan, At
2/07/2006 12:45:00 PM
ohhhhhhhhh Jill
does that work for ya?
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waygon112, At
2/07/2006 01:01:00 PM
Oh god, no, Sass! Nothing vomitous.
Thanks, Kat.
Egan, I hope you have a great week too, you sweet thing. And by the way, Egan, I love to use your name. Really, Egan, very unique. I thank your parents.
Sure, waygon, why not. It works. ;)
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Jill, At
2/07/2006 01:05:00 PM
Jill, I thank my parents too. It's a lovely name. Take care Jill.
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Egan, At
2/07/2006 04:04:00 PM
I always do this in person, but it never comes through in my writing. Maybe I'm trying too hard to be someone else on paper.
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blog Portland, At
2/07/2006 04:28:00 PM
Even then Jill there are names I won't answer too or those that make me uncomfortable. Hearing my whole name instills fear in my heart like nothing else, it usually meant I was in trouble. I have yet to outgrow it. Then there are names that you share with but a few, and by sharing you let them into a part of your world that is very elite indeed.
Nice Post!
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trueborn, At
2/07/2006 05:09:00 PM
You too, Egan.
You seem very sincere on the screen, Portland.
Thank you, Trueborn. It is special, to have private names. There's an intimacy in speaking them, even in speaking someone's given name at the appropriate time.
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Jill, At
2/07/2006 09:45:00 PM
Jill, I am very happy my name is Egan too. I have only met two other Egans in my entire life. It's weird because one is a great friend of my wife's family. His name is Egon, but pronounced the same... not like that Ghostbusters character. Jill, how much do I owe you?
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Egan, At
2/07/2006 11:06:00 PM
Nothing like hearing the sound of your name from a special someone. It's the tone of the voice that gets me every time...
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ChickyBabe, At
2/07/2006 11:54:00 PM
I always thought Jill was a nice name, Jill. You wear it well. ;)
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stretch td, At
2/08/2006 12:12:00 AM
Bill the Frog: I'll pick up the bill today, Gil.
Gil the Frog: Would you like something from the grill, Jill?
Jill the Frog: No, meat makes me ill, Gil.
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Claven, At
2/08/2006 02:55:00 AM
Write more.
Please ?
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Faltenin, At
2/08/2006 07:34:00 AM
I have been called a lot of things in my life. Thankfully, few of them stuck. For years in my neighborhood, I was known as "Hoffa", after the mobster, er, teamster boss. The explanation is too long for a comment.
I am, however, named after one of my mother's ex-boyfriends, I think. The one who taught her how to drive. Surely, there's some sort of psychological complex brewing there.
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Network Geek, At
2/08/2006 07:40:00 AM
Hmmm...Egan...how much do you owe me? I'm not sure how to respond to that one... Surely you mean to be modest about me saying such things about wonderful little you?
Oh god, CB, me too. It's the voice, and the tone of the voice... (post on this coming soon)
Stretch TD: Thank you kindly. And thanks for the visit.
Claven: I love that movie! I love Muppets!
Faltenin: I certainly intend to. But thanks for requesting so sweetly. And thanks for visiting as well!
Ah, Geek, you know, I have a variety of stories about your name as well. Do you have any Jill stories? I don't think mine is as common...
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Jill, At
2/08/2006 11:32:00 AM
Sadly, no, I have no Jill stories.
You are unique to me. (Does that count as flattery?)
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Network Geek, At
2/08/2006 06:50:00 PM
Yes, that counts.
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Jill, At
2/08/2006 09:08:00 PM
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